Finding Happiness
Are you happy with yourself and with your life? I would lay odds that there are things that you would want to change in both your life and you, yourself – I’ve rarely come across anybody who’s unconditionally happy. People often believe that if they improve themselves, lose weight, buy a new car, go on a great holiday that, then, they will be happy. That kind of ‘happy’, however, is fleeting and superficial. True happiness has to be lasting and not dependant on having this or doing that.
The only place where you will discover happiness is within. Sadly, that is way beyond the range of the vast majority of people[spin] because the normal person’s ‘within’ is [spin]hidden from them by what psychologists call ‘The Sentry’, a defence mechanism that we’ve all got which prevents others getting into our heads where they could brainwash us. The big problem is that this ‘Sentry’ keeps us out too! For a very good reason – or, at least, it appears like a good idea until you take a closer look at how we operate – our beliefs about how the world works and ourselves are stored in our subconscious. You wouldn’t want to go messing with that stuff, would you? Or would you? Because most of us believe that we’re inadequate at least in some way, most of us are simply not one hundred percent happy with who we are. That’s because our beliefs are not based on fact but on an accumulation of what we call the conditioning or programming that we were subject to during what is generally described as our formative years. This programming or conditioning is the source of both your unease with yourself and, just as importantly, everything that you perceive to be wrong in your life.
Our reality is created by our beliefs – it is those beliefs that automatically dictate our behaviour, our actions, our reactions and our interactions with everyone else. It is through this process that we, ourselves, create our version of reality. What you’re thinking about, at the deepest subconscious level, literally creates your life. And it’s not real, it’s made up from what others did for us or to us during those formative years. So of course you want to go messing with your beliefs, because normal beliefs hold normal people back.
You need to mess with your beliefs. You’ve got to get to the inner real you, to find true happiness – that is where you’ll unearth a you that is unstained by the crap of normal conditioning, unsullied by the deeply held beliefs that mess up our so-called normal lives – silly beliefs that keep us in our place – like we should know our place, like you have to work hard to succeed, like pain is never far behind pleasure, that pride comes before a fall – I’m sure you’ve got your own list.
Forget all that crap. Also, forget about who you believed you were and discover who you really are – and the life that you can really have. Your mind’s been focused on normal crap – put an end to it. I offer my clients various forms of ‘mental calming measures’ – meditation if you will – you’ve got to calm down, wake up and see the light. And then you will find effortless happiness.
